How can I keep calm when my child doesn’t listen?

Understanding anger

Your child is still learning. When your child doesn’t want to listen, you can calmly communicate with them by understanding their anger, using relaxation techniques, deep breathing, listening, using logic and communicating more clearly. You must identify and understand your anger to remain calm when your child doesn’t listen. It’s important to remember that your child is still learning as an adult. They will look up to you for guidance in behavioural issues. It is important to keep your cool in the face of frustration.

It can be difficult to control anger when it rises inside. Anger can come in many forms, including mild irritation and full-blown rage. Anger is a normal emotion. It is healthy not to allow anger to control your life. It’s okay to be angry but not to react in anger.

Relaxation techniques

When you feel anger creeping in, it is the best time to manage your anger. You can learn coping strategies if you get angry at your child for not listening. You’ll be able to use these techniques to help you get over your anger and help your child.

Don’t wait to express anger. Instead, talk to your child and try to reason with them. Your anger will have a chance to grow and take root, making it harder to calm down. Instead, try to calm down when your child isn’t listening so that you don’t make things worse.

Deep breathing

Anger can cause your heart speed to rising and your muscles to tense, making it difficult for you to feel in control. Deep, controlled breathing can help slow down your heart rate and relax your body. You can be more thoughtful by taking 30 seconds to breathe and pause.


Cognitive restructuring is also known as cognitive restructuring. This technique allows you to see the situation differently. Your child is not listening. You see your child not listening. Is there anything outside that influences how your child feels about things?

Anger tends to be dramatic and exaggerated. You can train your mind not to react in anger by challenging your mind to view things through the eyes of your child.


Anger is not about logic but emotion. You can break down anger by incorporating logic. Recall a time when you were angry. Was it possible to be angry and fix things? Was it possible to make your child listen and follow your directions by being angry? Most likely not.

Remember that “not listening to” could refer to something else. Your child might be tired or distracted. Your child may not be being difficult because they want to. There’s a reason. You can find the root cause of your problem by doing some research.

Communicating better

Anger can make it difficult to communicate clearly. Once you have calmed down, you can be more specific in your explanations or instructions. Instead of saying “Clean your toys now”, you could say, “Clean your toys because it’s time to eat dinner.” You can bring your toys out again and play with them tomorrow.

Your child will benefit from your clear communication and clear communication. Remember that how you communicate something is as important as the words you use. If your child isn’t listening, be careful not to sound impatient or sarcastic when you repeat instructions.


If your child doesn’t listen, your instinct might be not to surrender and stand firm. Humour doesn’t necessarily have to be the exact opposite. Your child may become frustrated or angry if they don’t listen. Humour can help you both calm down.

You can reach your child if you smile, give the same instructions and are a little silly. Be careful not to use humour to the point that your child will not take you seriously. You can use humour to relieve tension. Repeat your instructions, but this time firmly and kindly.

Here are some tips to get your child listening

Keep It Simple

Modern society is filled with stimulation. Too much stimulation is often a problem for children. They are constantly bombarded with toys, technology, options, and tasks. Your child’s brain may be working at its maximum capacity if they have had a full day. Sometimes a seemingly simple instruction may seem too complicated. You can simplify your request by:

  • Eliminating stimuli such as the television and video games
  • Eye contact with your child
  • One instruction at a given time
  • Please give a reason why you are asking for a better understanding

Be Consistent

Don’t be discouraged if your child doesn’t respond to your request. You may find your child testing boundaries to determine if they can push you beyond what you can do and how you respond. Although it may seem like they are trying to break under pressure, they want your consistency. Be calm and let go of your anger. This can help you listen better and establish respectful communication with your child.

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