What are the secrets to a happy family?
There are many definitions of family, so your family might look different from other families. There are some commonalities that all families have, but there are also some bad habits. Because of its flexibility, “Family” is an interesting term. Your family may look completely different from the one next door or down the street. Your family may consist of eight people, while your friends might have three. Despite all the variables and flexibility, there are still commonalities among happy families and those who are not.
What makes happy families happy
These traits have been recognized in happy families:
Communication. Communication is essential in your family, especially your children. Communication is essential. It is important to be loving, respectful, patient, and reciprocal. Children can’t often express their feelings in words. It can make a huge difference to know that adults are hearing them. They may feel more at ease if you open up about your life.
These are some of the ways you can achieve this type of two-way communication:
- Encourage your family to be as truthful as possible
- Your family deserves your full attention.
- Tell your family what you feel and think in a sincere yet loving manner.
- Tell your family when you are grateful for what they have said or how they behaved
- Allow for both positive and negative thoughts or feelings
- Make an effort to solve any issues that may arise.
- Let joy and laughter reign!
What makes happy families happy (continued)
Quality Time. It is important to spend quality time with your loved ones. Spend a few nights each week together. You and your family can enjoy activities together, which can help relieve some of the stress. You and your family can discover a new hobby or interest together.
Here are some ways you can spend quality time with your loved ones:
- Take the family out to dinner
- Take your family on a trip
- Create family traditions that are unique for special occasions, such as birthdays.
- Find ways to share your joy.
Decision-making. Children feel more involved in family decision-making and feel more connected to the whole family. This is especially true for older children, who may need to push boundaries and test them. It can be a great way to foster a sense of togetherness with your older children by sitting down and negotiating boundaries rather than imposing them. This can also teach your children how to ask for what they desire and work in harmony with loved ones.
Help during difficult times. It is important to be together during happy times, but it is equally important to be a comforting source for your family during hard times. It is important to show support and love when a family member is sick or dies.
Acceptance. It is important to recognize that each family member contributes their unique contribution to the group. A happy family does not consist of everyone acting, feeling, thinking, or behaving the same. A happy family embraces everyone as they are.
Here are some examples of how this might look:
- Accepting the differences between you and your family members
- Space should be allowed
- Sometimes, it is possible to agree to disagree with each other’s point of view
- To forgive each other
- Take ownership of your family and yourself.
What makes happy families happy (continued)
Flexibility and resilience. Happy families don’t always make you happy. If things do not go according to plan, try to be resilient with your family. Maybe your family trip is cancelled, or your life does not turn out the way you planned. Take the little moments in life and be open to change. Accept the issue if it is there. You and your family may need assistance in resolving conflicts or problems.
Take care. Particularly parents may find themselves spending all their time caring about their children. This can cause burnout and resentment, which in the end does not make you a caring parent/family member. Recognize that you also have needs and require space and time to care for yourself.
What makes unhappy families unhappy
These are the traits that unhappy families share:
- Uneven distribution. This occurs when one or more household members have none or all power.
- Cracking under conflict. Families that cannot maintain peace while resolving conflict are often unhappy.
- Disrespect. Feelings of belonging and respect are difficult to find when members of a family do not feel valued by one another.
- Communication breakdown. Listening to one another, not respecting the other’s point of view or relying too heavily on negative communications.
If they are willing to communicate, accept and respect each other, be patient and resilient, unhappy families can become happy.